Pregnancy #3: 25 weeks

by Grace Ko


I didn’t think I would be pregnant a third time. And yet here we are.

And I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to write my first pregnancy update with this baby as I’m nearing my third trimester.

Truthfully, most of the first trimester was spent miserable and confused, wondering if I could really do this. Doubt and fear filled my mind most of the time. But with time, a lot of prayer and support from loved ones, I turned a new leaf. Second trimester has been a blur. Being with O, now 18 months old, all day everyday is a joy but also extremely exhausting. And to top all of that, I recently realized this is my second pregnancy during this pandemic… Pregnancy, birth and postpartum are challenging in and of themselves but navigating them during a global pandemic present unique challenges. So it’s crazy, to say the least, that I’m going through it a second time.

Week 25 was an eventful one. I had a check up with my new OBGYN doctor. I not only had a lot of tests, including my glucose test (which I passed!) I found out I had abnormal thyroid levels so I went back for more bloodwork and a thyroid ultrasound. I’m also on additional iron supplements because my iron level was low.

We also found out we’re having a…

We had toyed with the idea of waiting to find out at birth but I couldn’t help myself.

And once I found out, I wanted to share the news with the kids (and hubby) in a fun way. So the gender volcano reveal it was!

At 6 months~

Baby's size: An eggplant! 13 inches in length!
Pros: Seeing a glimpse of baby’s face! And finding out gender!
Cons: Legs swelling and the occasional cramps at night. And heartburn… Fatigue (where did the second trimester energy go?), and just overall feeling more and more uncomfortable as this belly is getting bigger by the day.
Craving: Strangely nothing in particular
Outlook on the coming of baby: I’m growing more excited. When I found out we were having a girl, my initial feeling was one of worry. I just finished reading a book on sibling rivalry so I’ve been thinking a lot about just that. And with O and baby #3 only being 21 months apart, I began worrying about any jealousy, comparison and competition. But the more I talked to people with sisters and the more I think about it, I’m so thankful we’re going to have two girls!
Feelings about husband and J and O: Whether it’s the pregnancy hormones, the fatigue of chasing an active and opinionated 18-month-old, I’ve been snappier and crankier than usual. Often, I find myself having mom guilt and worried about how I will be able to juggle three children. But I’m thankful for a husband who is a partner in every sense. And I’m thankful for J who is empathetic and sensitive, and for O who is so spunky and full of life. They have been my cheerleaders when I’m having a “moment”.